We're always transmitting positive or negative ‘energy’. It may be a physically transmitted form of ‘thought energy’ as yet unidentified by science (our electrical impulses from our brain CAN be detected by EEG) or simply be how our attitude impacts the world, who knows. Either way, others pick up on this and respond likewise.
We are surrounded by a mix of generally positive or negative people all the time. You’ll notice the difference in how you feel almost immediately when talking to someone generally pessimistic (negative) or optimistic (positive). Positive people will encourage and support you. On the other hand, negative people will tell you that you can't achieve your goals and that they're too hard or unreachable.
It is the difference between:
How you feel after watching the nightly news, bemoaning the fact that the world is filled with violence, war, and desolation, the economy is horrid, you may lose your job, your wife is yelling at you, your kids are fighting, and on the way to work your car breaks down as a final F-You from the universe. Just reading it is depressing…imagine that is what surrounded you daily in life!
How you feel after watching TED Talks (Looks this up NOW if you don’t know what they are!) for an hour, being inspired by all the great thinkers of mankind, all the innovations in technology, art, science… people working together to image and create a greater world. Basically, all the best that humanity has to offer right there in talk after talk. You feel inspired and amazed at what is possible. You smile at your upset wife who smiles back as her mood lifts, you want to take action and make a difference in this world, too. What does it feel like if that is your mindset every day?
If you're continually bombarded with negative phrases in your thinking, such as "I just can't make ends meet," "There's never enough," or "I just can't seem to get ahead,” or negative input from the world like the news or never-ending complainers, then you are attracting more negativity into your life. It is where you live – mentally.
If you find yourself focusing on your small paycheck, physical ailments or unfulfilling relationships, it's time to make a change. Maybe you had role models of criticism instead of encouragement, or maybe you've always surrounded yourself with negative friends and influences.
Whatever the reason, it's time to break this cycle of negativity. Consider raising your standard of expectation. Find people to associate with who emit positive energy. Listen to positive input like TED Talks, or read inspiring books and magazines. And, clean up your negative self-talk.
When seeking other positive people, think of people you admire. Identify their traits you especially enjoy. You'll be generally attracted to people who have a similar sense of humor or who hold the same set of values.
Here are 11 ways to attract positive people and create more positive energy in your life:
1. Look for positive qualities in other people. It's far easier to see someone's faults before seeing their goodness. Challenge yourself to look only for a person's good qualities.
2. Be aware of your own finest qualities, or those you want to emulate, and project these qualities to the world. This contributes to your self-awareness and increases your self-esteem.
3. Exercise compassion toward everyone, including yourself. Negative energy obsesses about unattainable goals. However, positive energy allows us to realize when we're doing our best and everything is okay just as it is.
4. Value others' opinions. Positive energy is open-minded. Listen to all points of view and do your best to understand them, regardless of how different from your own they are.
Trying to change someone's mind is usually futile, so, even if you're right, save your energy, understand their opinion, and move on.
5. Refrain from judging. Give others the benefit of the doubt. Negative energy is critical in judging others and loves finding fault. Judging produces negative energy and attracts more of the same back to you.
6. Be honest. Express your true self in thoughts, words, and actions. Live an authentic life.
7. Don't be afraid to admit to having occasional negative thoughts, emotions, and moods. Everyone does. We're all human, and negative thoughts are a part of human nature. The key is not to dwell on negativity.
8. Celebrate the success and happiness of others. Negative energy is jealous, but positive people are thrilled when others succeed. Use someone else's success as a motivator to make you a better person.
9. Balance fulfillment and serving others. If you spend your life trying to please others, you may find yourself ignoring your own needs. Positive energy is balanced.
10. Persevere in spite of fear or defeat. We all experience defeat, disappointment and fear! Rather than bemoaning a setback, use it as a chance to learn something new and prepare for your next challenge.
11. Follow your dreams and desires. Embrace your joy every step of the way as you achieve your goals.
People with positive energy approach the world with an open heart and a sense of humor. They refuse to be colored by cynicism and bitterness. They strive to see the best in the world around them, revel in the success of others, and diligently pursue their own goals.
Becoming a positive person today will help you attract more positive people and situations into your life tomorrow. The more positive people that surround you, the more you'll feel joy, contentment, and fulfillment in your own life.
Positivity is what you will send out in the world and it is what you will experience in your life.